End disconnect between civilians, military
Two years ago this month, one of our nationís greatest military leaders, Adm. Mike Mullen, spoke in a memorable commencement address at West Point of how in traveling the nation, heís always impressed with the support the American people show the military. Then he added a key observation: ďBut I fear they do not know us,Ē said Mullen, then serving as chair of the Joint Chiefs of Staff. ďI fear they do not comprehend the full weight of the burden we carry or the price we pay when we return from battle.Ē Mullen urged the graduates to commit to bridging what he described as a growing gap between military and civilian cultures. Mullenís wise observation reflects what I witnessed after my husband, U.S. Army Specialist Christopher Horton, was killed in action in Afghanistanís Paktya Province in September 2011. There is indeed a divide between civilians and military veterans and families ó but the good news is we can work together to build greater understanding. My husband, Chris, a native of Collinsville, Okla., was only 26 when he died. Patriotic, courageous, honorable and caring, he enlisted because he believed in America, and he wanted to give everything he could to defend freedom around the world so we could remain safe back home. Neither of us fully grasped how much we would both end up giving.In the weeks and months following Chrisís death, I was heartened by the outpouring of support I received from family, friends and even strangers. Like Mullen, I saw that Americans are deeply proud of our service members, and they want to show their support. But as time passed, I was also aware of how hard it is for Americans to fully understand what military families go through. In an earlier era, when millions of Americans completed a period of military service under conscription, a broader and deeper understanding of the military existed throughout American culture, as a matter of shared experience. Today, with our all-volunteer military, we have a professional defense and peacekeeping force without equal. But that has come at a cost: today, fewer Americans have first-hand military experience. That disconnect can have serious consequences in how civilians and military veterans relate. In 2012, a veteransí advocacy group, The Mission Continues, polled Americans to learn more about how they think about military veterans. Most respondents reported strong positive feelings about veterans, but they also believed that veterans are likely to be less educated (not necessarily true, particularly if you factor in the expertise and leadership skills that come with military service) and likely to suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder (true in some cases, but not for the vast majority of veterans). Those misapprehensions have real-world implications. For example, over the past several years, veterans have suffered higher unemployment rates than the civilian population, in part due to the lack of shared understanding. The question is, how do we bridge that gap in understanding? I wouldnít urge a return to the draft ó itís hard to make the case that mandatory service would make our military stronger. However, I wish we could recapture a part of that spirit of shared sacrifice and service of an earlier era. One key to rekindling a deeper understanding of military service in American culture lies with members of the military and their families. As Mullen urged in his speech, itís incumbent upon us to share our stories with the American people, so we can learn from one another. At the same time, I would urge Americans who may not have served to spend time getting to know more about the military, our veterans and what they do for our nation. Get to know the names and stories of some of our nationís fallen heroes ó make sure they are not forgotten. Attend a Memorial Day event, talk to attendees and connect with those who have served. Visit with a war veteran or talk to a Gold Star family. And then, donít let it end on Memorial Day ó letís make it a lifelong commitment to bridge the gap between our civilian and military cultures. I know my husband Chris would have wanted that for the country he loved so deeply and served so honorably.
Jane Horton is a veterans activist. As a member of Concerned Veterans for America, Horton devotes her time to Gold & Blue Star families and can be contacted at firstname.lastname@example.org.